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Father's Day 2011: Know Your Role...

Father's Day is here,so I tip my hat to all the wonderful men out there who have taken this role to heart.My biological didnt bother,but it was years later when I learned many of the reasons why.Although he wasnt present,he helped make me,so I wear my last name with pride.I fortunately had other males in my life which made for the best upbringing ever. My brother's father is still around(whom I call my dad)and my grandfather,who was the greatest. He was actually my favorite person in the house!I love him,and miss him dearly.  Named my son after him. With all that being said,truthfully my mother often had to do most of the job herself,but she will never be a father.

I say this with no disrespect intended,but we are perpetuating a lot of bullsh*t with the notion that women play both roles. We dont . We cant . Simply put,we never will. If that was the case,all of us would be clones,which we are not. Dont know about anyone else,but word to R. Kelly,there was some bumping and grinding involved that got all of us here on planet Earth.Relationships go awry,and often we are left to carry the weight.It hurts.I can testify to that.But no dice.We can only be the best mothers possible.We need our men. Continuing to male bash and further ignore his role in our lives and homes is making matters worse.Put an end to it.If he's a nonfactor,stop giving him unnecessary attention. Your children will thank you.I  thank my mother all the time for keeping me out of her issues with my father. Feel Im a betther person today for it.We gotta do better y'all...

Part 2 of a 4 Part Series-Reflection Eternal:Breathe In,Breathe Out...

Its so refreshing to wake up every morning ready to face the day without looming fears and worries. Of course there are challenges,but nothing that propels me to hide under the covers in bed all day.In the spirit of keeping it 'trill'with y'all, I will dig deep down into the heart of DiddyBop and share a little.I just went through a real life 'Kramer vs. Kramer' type drama.We all know how I hate dramatic confusion,it gives me headaches. So stressful was this ordeal that I began to see for myself the physical effects.Dont trip,but everyone knows Im vain so this wasnt really working for me.On top of having Marsha Warfield search me 'very carefully' each time,it was thoroughly humiliating to have to place my family on display for people that dont know me from a can of paint.All when it could have been easily resolved years ago.Add 'Rapper Dude' to the hectics,and voila! Too much,things were spinning out of control faster than Bobbi Kristina.But the month of May was good to me. I chilled,listened to my heart,and above all,prayed.The time away from it all was well worth it. Just the last 6 months alone would make a weaker woman snap,but I know there are better days ahead& I never lost sight of that.With each lesson I grow stronger and wiser,and every superhero needs superior strength and wisdom.Came out a winner.Now where's that DiddyBop cape???

Part 1 of a 4 Part Series-Reflection Eternal: Sweet Freedom...

Hey young world! Its been a minute since DiddyBop has laced you with her one of a kind  tidbits about love,life,and the pursuit of staying sane .Well Iam back! Officially off the bench.Was on the injured players list for a moment,but Im back in shape,ready for the "game",and ready to play ball!

At last report,"Rapper Dude" did a number on my heart,he gave me a 'one hit wonder'. But I took a month off,away from dating and uh,etcetera.I realized that I had been hurt and incredibly disappointed. I needed to get away from it all for a while to clear my head,literally free my mind.It worked!I feel good in the fact that I know my worth,even if he never did. It didnt happen for us for a reason.Reasons that I cant begin to concern myself with,but its for the best.I gained wisdom from that experience,and Im grateful.Its not all rappers,all musicians,hell,all light skinned dudes.It was just him. And he is not the one for me.I tip my hat Sir.I enjoyed the ride,but now I must depart.Somewhere,happiness awaits.Just make sure you shout me out on the next mixtape.DiddyBop cant be forgotten,and I know I provided a heaping helping of inspiration.....#sweetsh*t