Father's Day 2011: Know Your Role...

Father's Day is here,so I tip my hat to all the wonderful men out there who have taken this role to heart.My biological didnt bother,but it was years later when I learned many of the reasons why.Although he wasnt present,he helped make me,so I wear my last name with pride.I fortunately had other males in my life which made for the best upbringing ever. My brother's father is still around(whom I call my dad)and my grandfather,who was the greatest. He was actually my favorite person in the house!I love him,and miss him dearly.  Named my son after him. With all that being said,truthfully my mother often had to do most of the job herself,but she will never be a father.

I say this with no disrespect intended,but we are perpetuating a lot of bullsh*t with the notion that women play both roles. We dont . We cant . Simply put,we never will. If that was the case,all of us would be clones,which we are not. Dont know about anyone else,but word to R. Kelly,there was some bumping and grinding involved that got all of us here on planet Earth.Relationships go awry,and often we are left to carry the weight.It hurts.I can testify to that.But no dice.We can only be the best mothers possible.We need our men. Continuing to male bash and further ignore his role in our lives and homes is making matters worse.Put an end to it.If he's a nonfactor,stop giving him unnecessary attention. Your children will thank you.I  thank my mother all the time for keeping me out of her issues with my father. Feel Im a betther person today for it.We gotta do better y'all...